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You cannot Choose your Family

Being unequally yoked

2 Corinthians 6:14-17 Amplified Bible, says:

“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers [do not make mismated alliances with them or come under a different yoke with them, inconsistent with your faith]. For what partnership have right living and right standing with God with iniquity and lawlessness? Or how can light have fellowship with darkness?

What harmony can there be between Christ and Belial [the devil]? Or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?

What agreement [can there be between] a temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God; even as God said, I will dwell in and with and among them and will walk in and with and among them, and I will be their God, and they shall be My people.

So, come out from among [unbelievers], and separate (sever) yourselves from them, says the Lord, and touch not [any] unclean thing; then I will receive you kindly and treat you with favor,”

The previous passages are self-explanatory. These principles work whether you are a Christian or not.

In a non-Christian world if those whom you are involved in business with, or work with, think differently than you do, or have different goals, even different motivations, there will be conflict, in action, in communication and in concepts.

You will have those who are show offs, trying to boss every one around, or trying to kiss up to the boss, and then you have those who just want to do their job. It takes a true professional to look beyond these differences and still perform at their best. (Can you tell I deal with that?)

Look at our Government, Why is there a Democratic and a Republican party? Because they see things differently, although they do seem to reason together on occasion.

In the Marriage, we find the mystery of Marriage from the book of Ephesians 5:32 that would line up with the previous passage of 2 Corinthians 6:15. One partner being a believer, and the other a non-believer. Jesus even tells us how to get out of such a marriage in the Gospels.

How many times have we seen a couple in love from different faiths like Jewish or Catholic and one of the potential partners has to convert to the others faith so that there will be harmony. In addition, Holidays would really be a mess.

Moreover, we all know the issues of mixed race marriages, although I don’t see this as being unequally yoked unless they are from totally different cultures or countries, like Western and Eastern, where there are obvious language issues and other misunderstandings. I know this personally because I being a Black American, marrying a Korean National was quite a challenge even though we were in love.

Exodus 23:32, 33 “You shall make no covenant with them or with their gods. They shall not dwell in your land, lest they make you sin against Me; for if you serve their gods, it will surely be a snare to you.” These are clear words of wisdom.

In relationships such as friends, this principle also applies. For example if you do not use illegal drugs or drink alcohol one should not hang out with those who do, otherwise you will end up using yourself. A man told me once “If you hang out in a Barbershop long enough, you will get a hair cut.”

Then there is the general thinking or spirit of those who have such addictions or questionable habits, or thinking, that is not similar to yours. Eventually you will think and act as they do. Like Mom always said. “Birds of a feather flock together.” Or “If they jump off a bridge, will you?”

On the other hand, if you have a goal such as how to get rich, then you want to hang out with those who are rich, or trying to get rich, so that their thinking would rub off on you, even though you and they may not be equally yoked at the outset.

So in conclusion: You cannot choose your Family, but you can choose your partners. So choose wisely.