After having spent the most romantic days on honeymoon heaven, landing back on earth, may really hit the newly wed couples hard. The bride may be busy in the tedious task of writing several thank you notes, while the groom very likely is forced to say good bye to all the great memories of a week spent on exotic islands and greet his everyday boring job. Then as the days go on, sooner than later, the couple will get over the wedding bliss and will likrly settle like old flour in a jar.
As Bill Cosby puts it in his personal statement’ “For two people in a marriage to live together day after day is unquestionably the one miracle the Vatican has overlooked” perhaps he may know this situation a bit too well. Yet, it does not have to be this way. There are many ways to keep the romance alive and watch it still sparkle. It really does not take much, and one of the biggest advantages is that newly married couples are still fresh and still have a lot of passion to share. Following are some tips on how to keep the romance alive after the honeymoon stage is over.
Ways to Enjoy Marital Bliss after Descending from Honeymoon Heaven
~ Take Care of the Home
One of the most exciting features of getting married is taking care of the new house. You still have a lot of work to do and may need to still shop for furniture and decor. Sharing thoughts and ideas will increase complicity between couples and shopping for furniture is an exciting way to keep romance alive. Having goals is one of the best ways to keep the couple united, whether it is remodeling the home, creating a Japanese garden or choosing curtains.
~ Schedule a Brief Coffee Break
Work around your schedule and every now and then, make some space for some quality time together. Meet for a lunch or a small coffee break and enjoy the time together. You do not have to spend a whole evening together, just a few minutes to catch up on things and remind each other how important it is to be together. If there is no time for such meeting ensure to mark your calendar for at least a ”date”
~Go on a Date
Yes, just as in the old days, before you were married. Bring back the bliss of getting ready for each other and looking good for each other. Then meet in a romantic restaurant for a candle lit dinner. Enjoy each other’s company and talk about all the good stuff. This should create a sense of closeness and intimacy.
~ Send out Messages
Keeping in touch during the work week may be tough, and sending out reminders of an upcoming date or just simply leaving a love note, is a good way to show each other you care. Such messages can be sent through cellphones, e-mails or a little note on paper slipped in a pocket or added to a lunch bag. Reminders of an upcoming date may also create the grounds for anticipation and bring back that special ”tension” of when you were an unmarried couple.
~ Take Dancing Lessons
Nothing is perhaps more sensual than dancing together and learning to do so professionally may bring a couple closer. Just as marriage, dancing requires harmony that is obtained one step at a time. Choose a dance style that both enjoy learning and stick with the lessons. Salsa, Waltz, Tango are good choice for couples. If keeping up with lessons turn out to challenging, slipping a record on at home and engaging in a dancing session may benefit as well.
~ Schedule Massages
Keep the romance alive and take stress away from the overwhelming work schedule by giving each other a sensual massage. It could start out as a food massage, then a nice shoulder rub up to a full body massage that will relax and create the grounds for complicity and intimacy. Choosing a good massage oil is a must.
~ Mark those Calendars
Make sure that your wedding anniversary date is marked with a big heart. Don’t forget Valentine’s day and birthdays. The day you have met and engagement dates are nice dates to remember as well. Enjoy celebrating these dates as they are important milestones that will mark your growth together.
A seen there are several ways to enjoy marital bliss even after the honeymoon is over. Perhaps the biggest piece of advice is to enjoy each other and try as much as possible to not get too ”’comfortable”. Don’t take each other for granted, rather treat each other as unique . If love has united you it was a special gift from destiny, therefore treat each other as a special gift, a gift that should be unwrapped day after day, but that should survive the passage of time as long as you make your marriage a top priority.