Not so long ago, the thought of online dating was laughed at. It was mainly for those who could not normally get a date in “the real world,” and this was their only resort. If you did use your computer to meet someone, often you had to think up of how you met so you weren’t looked at as an outcast. It’s bad enough you had to use the internet to find a date in the first place, God forbid you have to actually ADMIT to it!
Nowadays, online dating is as commonplace as going to your local bar, even better in some ways. With sites like Eharmony that match you on personality profiles, Jdate for the Jewish community, Match.com and even Myspace, more and more people are turning to online dating over taking their chances out in public. The benefits of getting to know someone before meeting far outweighs the old stigmata. But is it really better? Will online dating remain as popular as it is today or like any fad will it eventually fade away?
There are benefits to online dating. With most sites you will be able to see several pictures and a brief description of your potential mate, including a list of likes and dislikes, hobbies, interests, etc. You will chat back and forth with a few emails and if there is an interest, you will move on to the phone call and possibly an eventual meeting. The internet opens up a wider market of potential suitors that you would not normally have met in your normal social life. A friend of mine met someone online from out of state, fell in love and are now married. I myself have used online dating and prefer it to going out and meeting women. A lot of people are tired of the bar scene and are now using their computers to find love. Not only does it open up more opportunities, it’s also cheaper in some cases.
But is it really better? The one thing that online dating take out of the equation is physical attraction. The chemical reaction when two people meet and find themselves attracted to each other. You can’t feel that sitting in front of a computer, even if you are looking at a recent photo. You can hit it off online and be the perfect match, but when you meet there is no spark. Often times one person will have unreal expectations after lengthy emails and phone calls and when they finally meet it does not work out and they are left wondering what happened. You cannot replace the physical connection two people may or may not have with a computer.
So to answer the question, online daters are not real couples. They are at best pen pals. If you want to be considered a real couple you have to take the relationship offline and have a real relationship. Computers are good for introductions only.