Is the Grass Really Greener on the Other Side?
If you’re regularly tempted to say ‘the grass is always greener’ when you compare your situation with others’ then read on.
How do you feel when someone seems to have a better deal than you do? Angry? Jealous? Frustrated? As if you’re searching for something that’s eluding you? And does feeling this way help at all? These are all negative and time consuming emotions, so how can you help yourself to a more constructive frame of mind?
The American writer and clergyman Robert Fulghum pointed out that the grass isn’t greener on the other side of the fence, it’s greener when you water it.
Here are 2 things you can do to have beautiful green grass of your own and stop peeping enviously over the fence.
1. Apply ‘What if?’
Step out of yourself for a moment and look at your life through the eyes of a stranger. List all the great things you see in your life and all you have to be grateful for.
This includes all the things you take for granted like your health, home, family, job etc.
Now apply ‘what if’ to each of those things. What if you didn’t have a home? Didn’t have a family? Didn’t have the good health you have? Even if your home/family/health aren’t perfect (and nobody’s is), without all that you’re grateful for life probably wouldn’t be very green.
This exercise helps us to realise how green the grass is on this side of the fence.
If your gratitude list is a long one that’s great. If you find yourself looking about for things to be thankful for, consider those in the poorest neighbourhoods, those without homes, without a job, loving parents, safety, food or clean water or people living in war zones.
2. Water the grass.
When we look at someone else’s situation and think it looks better than our own, we need to remember that no one lives a charmed life – not even the celebrities we see on TV.
If your greenery isn’t as green as you want it to be it’s time to think about what you can do to change that. Are there little tweaks here and there or big changes you need to make?
Start by making a (realistic) wish list of changes you want to make then think about strategies to make these happen.
So the moral of the tale is, don’t wish for greener grass – start watering and weeding what you have!