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How to Cope with Peer Pressure in Christian Life

Peer pressure is not an easy thing to cope with, especially when you are a teen whose heart is set upon Christ. But nobody promised that this life would be easy, but we have all that we need to fight (Ephesians 6:13), and we have a reward awaiting for us if we endure to the end (Revelations 20:4-6). That doesn’t mean that we just have to give up and allow the devil to use us for his wicked plans. Life is always a battle, no matter what the battle is for. But I believe it is most worthy to fight for love and for Christ, than to fight for anything else.

We are promised eternal life with God in heaven (John 3:16). We are promised eternal treasures in heaven waiting for us. All that we have on this mortal world will perish one day, even our mortal bodies.

Jesus in Matthew 24:35 says “Heaven and earth shall pass away, but my words shall not pass away.”. His Word (by which all that was made has been made) is eternal, and never passes away.

That’s why He will give us immortal bodies, so that we can live in His eternal presence forever.

1 Corinthians 15:53

For this corruptible must put on incorruption, and this mortal must put on immortality.

To be a teen, some say, is the best thing in your life. They say that this is a period of craziness, period of changes, period of growing-up.

I have to agree to some degree. But does it mean that when you are a teen you are free to do whatever you want or try things that you haven’t before?
No, definitely. First, your parents may tell you to be careful because there are peer who may give you drugs, alcohol, cigarettes.. And your parents are right, you really should obey them about this.

But then again, if your parents don’t know Christ and aren’t saved, they will tell you things like: “Get a girlfriend/boyfriend”, “have fun”, “try & experience everything”, “we don’t want you to be a monk/nun, go out and have fun.”

At the top of all this struggles, we have our peers. We are with them almost everyday, mostly in school, but out of school too, and you spend lots of time with them.

But, there is a problem with that. Peers indirectly or directly may request that you do some stuff they like. For example, if some of them smokes, they may offer you a cigarette, saying “Just try, nothing bad will happen if you just try”; or you see all your friends drinking alcohol and you want to show that you are a man, and you start to drink too, drinking lots and lots of alcohol to prove that you can stand it. Who are you trying to prove that? To your peers, or to yourself? I am sure you will most likely fail it, because alcohol doesn’t make you a man. Neither do cigarettes or drugs. Neither sex, adultery, masturbation, pornography.

What makes you a man is the courage to stand up after you have fallen so many times, to stand up for something worth. To stand up for Christ.

Unfortunately, we all are weak at some point, and we can’t always be strong enough to say “no” to a temptation, to say “no” to something that’s pressuring you. Sometimes, we simply fall, and aren’t able to stand up. But we have promise in Christ that He will renew our strength, and He will help us stand up.

Matthew 11:28

Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.

He is faithful and just to keep His promises, even when we are unfaithful. He never lies, for God isn’t a liar. Temptations always come, because that’s one of the strongest weapons of Satan against Christians. But Scripture clearly tells that “No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and their righteousness is of me, saith the LORD.” – Isaiah 54:17;

 “Then said he unto the disciples, It is impossible but that offences [temptations] will come: but woe unto him, through whom they come!” – Luke 17:1.

We are His servants, cleansed by the Lamb’s precious blood, sanctified, and we are made to do holy deeds. We are to fight the good fight of faith (1 Timothy 6:12), and to serve Him humbly.

When peers tell you to do something, just smile, and say: “No thanks, I serve the LORD”. They may laugh, they may make fun of you, they may not even talk to you anymore. But blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake and those who are hated for the Son of Man’s sake (Luke 6:22,23).

We are to give up all that we have, and take our cross and follow Jesus daily, if we want to be His servants (Luke 9:23). We may have to give up our ungodly peers, but that’s why God has promised us to give us fellow servants to be our brothers and sisters. He tells us that no one can separate us from His love. We may be hated by this world (1 John 3:13; John 15:18), but that’s why we have our brothers and sisters in Christ who love us, and are there always to lead us back to Christ, to pray for us, to help us, to just remind us of Christ’s love (1 John 3:16).

Here are some few more verses that you may find useful:

1 Corinthians 6:10

Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.

1 Corinthians 6:18-20

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.

Romans 12:2

And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

This fight is worth to be fought. “For to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain.” – Philippians 1:21

*All scripture references are taken from King James Version (Cambridge Edition).